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Shifting How

You Think

I recently read an article by Eric Zimmer titled “The Surprising “Good” Habit That Could Be Holding You Back”.

  • There is positive thinking. There is optimism.
  • There is negative thinking. There is pessimism.
  • There is realism.
  • There is black and white. There are gray areas.
  • There is the big picture. There are the details.

“The pessimist complains about the wind, the optimist thinks that it will change, and the realist adjusts the sails.” ~Oliver Burkeman

Zimmer talks about there being a middle ground that he calls constructive thinking! Strategic thinking. Then look for the actionable opportunity to change it! He talks about acknowledging the potential for things to go wrong in order to strategize a solution. 

I like it! Do I focus only on the positive in a negative situation? Do I weigh only the pros and not the cons in dealing with situation? I find it hard to find that balance at times.

I find at times releasing “this stuff sucks” stress relieving! It is natural to be anxious and tense. It is natural to worry and have fears. Is it better to deal with it, dwell on it, bottle it up, etc.? 

I find myself going into problem solving mode and at times that involves making lists to come up with solutions! How does this affect me or not? It is about perception and interpretation. How does this affect my quality of life? Some times focusing only on the negative or only on the positive just keeps you stuck! 

Do you approach it one way or can it be approached in a combination of ways? For instance, looking at the gray areas of the big picture while having inclinations toward the positive.

It is thinking about the best strategy that works best for you! If you deny or deceive yourself will you have the chance to find your way out of the situation to move forward again. For example, you are faced with a wall. Do you go around it or over it? OR Do you just go through it?

“It’s not always easy to find this perspective in life, but it is always valuable.

When the next storm hits your life, adjust your sails, and you’ll have a much better chance of making it through.” ~Andrew Zimmer


(Photos by RSheridan)

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Practice and Practice Some More

Building Strength, Mentally

My mental state takes a beating at times! I have to say most of it comes from myself. I set expectations and have my perceptions of myself, other people and in situations. I have to get out of my head and not be so willing to follow my crazy mind!

When I am under pressure I cannot focus mentally. When I am dealing with other people I either want to flee or fight, especially if there is drama, conflict and/or confrontation. When I am in a demanding situation I sometimes struggle when it comes to thinking clearly and concisely. I am just stretched to my limit or at least I THINK I am!

How do you strengthen your mental aptitude?

The biggest lesson I have learned from building strength mentally is to know myself! Also, it helps to know what is important to me. It matters to me in staying true to who I am! It gives me a sense of priority and purpose too.

I try to remain as calm and collected as possible. I try to put a smile and a positive spin on it too! Sometimes instead of envisioning the outcome I focus on the challenge at hand. This gives me a plan when figuring out what I want to do and where I want to go!

Basically, I ask myself 2 questions!

  1. What did I do well?
  2. What solutions are available to me to solve the problem at hand?

I remember the one manager I had a few years back. This manager did not want to hear problems unless you came with some solutions to those problems! This manager wanted you to change your thought process of a problem to focusing on thinking of solutions. I know it helped me in my thought processes as well as strengthing my mental aptitude!

This manager also helped me be more self motivated and to really trust myself and my abilities! This manager really challenged me mentally as well as motivated me mentally, emotionally and physically. I enjoyed that constructive feedback and that overall collaboration. I appreciated that building up instead of breaking me down!

This also holds me accountable to myself! If I take accountability I am way more likely to be successful. I really do not want to slack off, pass off or short myself. For me it is about doing the best that I can and knowing that I did it to the best of my abilities too! Otherwise I am not gaining, growing or learning in these situations because I am not following through to the end.

By growing and learning I am changing, improving and transitioning as a person and a better version of myself too! I strongly believe in learning and doing better when I make mistakes, have setbacks and experience failures. In building my mental strength I build my confidence too! This helps reduce the anxiety, pressure and stress. I have the ability to remain focused and hopefully find my patient, calm and collected self. The ultimate end result is being able to perform better by being able to think on my feet in order to take action!


(Photos by RSheridan)

Here’s a Brain Teaser to Keep Your Mind Sharp – Can you think of a word associated with all three of these words: cottage, Swiss, cake? Go!


Flipping the Switch

By Changing the Way You Think

As part of this journey of self-exploration, I have been thinking about transforming change. Why is transforming as a person difficult at times? For me it is the push-pull between my brain and my heart; the rational versus the emotional. For instance, you want to be a better person, but sometimes you want to raise a little heck too!

Here’s the real kicker! My emotional self loves being a creature of habit and enjoys the comforts of my current routine. My rational self loves to move and shake things up and screams change. This push-pull can complicate your life when it comes to making changes in your life, especially when accomplishing your goals, hopes and dreams!

Can you have the best of your selves? I think that your rational and emotional selves can come together to accomplish great things in your life. Find what you love to do, spark your creativity and ignite your passions. You have to flip the switch and change the way you think to make change happen in your life! 

Make the Changes that Matter to You! Go!


Changing . . . (Photo by Rsheridan)


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