I recently read an article by Eric Zimmer titled “The Surprising “Good” Habit That Could Be Holding You Back”.
- There is positive thinking. There is optimism.
- There is negative thinking. There is pessimism.
- There is realism.
- There is black and white. There are gray areas.
- There is the big picture. There are the details.
“The pessimist complains about the wind, the optimist thinks that it will change, and the realist adjusts the sails.” ~Oliver Burkeman
Zimmer talks about there being a middle ground that he calls constructive thinking! Strategic thinking. Then look for the actionable opportunity to change it! He talks about acknowledging the potential for things to go wrong in order to strategize a solution.
I like it! Do I focus only on the positive in a negative situation? Do I weigh only the pros and not the cons in dealing with situation? I find it hard to find that balance at times.
I find at times releasing “this stuff sucks” stress relieving! It is natural to be anxious and tense. It is natural to worry and have fears. Is it better to deal with it, dwell on it, bottle it up, etc.?
I find myself going into problem solving mode and at times that involves making lists to come up with solutions! How does this affect me or not? It is about perception and interpretation. How does this affect my quality of life? Some times focusing only on the negative or only on the positive just keeps you stuck!
Do you approach it one way or can it be approached in a combination of ways? For instance, looking at the gray areas of the big picture while having inclinations toward the positive.
It is thinking about the best strategy that works best for you! If you deny or deceive yourself will you have the chance to find your way out of the situation to move forward again. For example, you are faced with a wall. Do you go around it or over it? OR Do you just go through it?
“It’s not always easy to find this perspective in life, but it is always valuable.
When the next storm hits your life, adjust your sails, and you’ll have a much better chance of making it through.” ~Andrew Zimmer
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