A Healthier “No!”
I hear myself say, “I am so busy!” and “I don’t have the time.”! Then I hear myself say, “I am bored.”, “I need change.” and “I want to be challenged.”!
I have multiple reasons and/or excuses as to why I say these things!
- I think about that I am not busy and I do have the time. However, I just do not want to do something or spend my time doing it.
- I think about if this is of interest to me and worth spending my time on it.
- I think about the commitment and if I have the time to take it on.
- I think about the certain things that are a waste of my time and my energy.
- I think about if I get a choice or not in doing something.
- I think about what inspires me to be creative.
- I think about playing and having more fun.
- I think about rest, relaxation and time to myself.
- I think about needing to say, “No!” more.
Searching . . . Seeking . . . Discovering . . .
I will usually ask myself some questions!
- How do I make the most of my time?
- What is a waste of me and my time?
- What serves me and feeds me
I learned a valuable lesson recently! I usually prioritize my daily schedule and adjust as needed. However, I now find myself scheduling myself and my priorities instead! I feel pretty good when I get my top 3 to 4 things done throughout my day.
If yes, I go for it! If not, I politely decline and thank that person for thinking of me. If I am on the fence, I will take some time to make a decision before committing to a yes or a no. I do not want to commit to something and than not be committed. That is not fair!
I want and need to approach time in a way that is healthier and makes me happier! I think about what “stuff” is valuable or non-valuable to me. I think about what “stuff” is essential or non-essential to me.
I think about that day to day “stuff” that I need to do and weigh it against what I want to do, what I love to do! It is about finding that balance; working for an hour or two and then taking 5 minutes to do something for myself. I truly want to spend my time on “stuff” that is rewarding and satisfying as well as giving myself joy and contentment!
Imagining . . . Envisioning . . . Dreaming . . . (Photos by RSheridan)