I was talking to a friend recently about being jealous rather than being happy instead for another person, especially a good friend!
When and where do we learn this bad habit of bursting someone else’s bubble to make ourselves feel better?
BIG & Hairy!
Here Is What I Do Know Though
- I know for certain I have enough stress and enough drama in my life without creating more of it.
- I know for certain I was taught to express myself, including my emotional self. I am learning to reign my emotional self in now as an adult!
- I know for me it comes from wanting something similar to happen in my own life.
- I know sometimes it triggers the competitive person that lives inside of me.
Why can we not be happy for that person and avoid having the green monster rear its ugly head? It is just envy and jealousy overriding happiness. It is hard to find the happiness when all you want to see is GREEN!
Do NOT break that person down and take away their happiness and SHINE!
Shining . . . Smiling . . . Seeking
Why not make their happiness as important as my own happiness! I feel in being happy for myself as well as others that I am more open to the opportunities in my own life. I know it is not easy, but it is DOABLE! I feel it is to my benefit to use my energies for the good and the positive in living my life. It certainly helps in living with a healthier and happier mind and heart!
Why not live vicariously through others at times? I want to be able to do that as well as see the good and positive of myself through others. Why not, right! Does that not give myself delight and pleasure as well as happiness and joy. I can give it and share it with other people too.
I would rather have a partner and/or pals to adventure through life with instead of alienating those around me and being lonely! I know I need to take care of myself and my needs and my interests. However, I know living my life is much bigger than just me, myself and I too. I choose to not live my life in a bubble!
Seeing Bark or a Rainbow of Color?
First and Foremost I need to STOP Discounting Myself! I think it really comes down to being aware of how I value myself!
I need to STOP the . . .
- The Negativity
- The Judging and The Perceiving
- The Comparing and The Competing
I find it hard to be open and accepting of others when I feed into that! I need to connect with my self worth and who I am, especially from within myself. I need to put the ego and the attitude aside and deal with any deficiencies I feel about myself first before putting them on to someone else. I need to be more self aware and think before taking action, especially when it comes to emotions, feelings and thoughts!
I am just trying to live my life as I journey along! I choose the way I want to live my life as do most people. I really want to seek out and soak up the world around me!
Bright . . . Bold . . . Beautiful (Photos by RSheridan)