The Valuable Usage of Words
I have been known to use the words could, should and would! I am working on using words, like can, shall and will instead!
I find myself using the words could, should and would when I set high expectations for myself! I am just setting myself up for failure in doing that though.
I also find myself using these words to hold myself back! I find it is easier than being judged or compared by other people as being or doing too much. It is that feeling of not being in control or being controlled by others. It is getting into that people pleasing at times!
There is that fine balance between meeting my individual needs and putting the needs of other people before mine! There needs to a good amount of give as well as receive, especially when it comes to doing for myself. I have talked before about giving a strong no versus a weak yes and then not following through! I am doing no good when I do that and my actions do speak louder than words at times.
I am finding conviction and commitment when I make bold statements using words like can, shall and will! For instance, I will spend time taking care of myself and my needs. I do think it is easier to convict and commit when I really want to do something too! I ask myself when torn, “What do I really want?”.
Conviction: The act of moving a person by a course of action.
Walking Here! Crossing the Road . . . (Photo by RSheridan)