Building Strength, Mentally
My mental state takes a beating at times! I have to say most of it comes from myself. I set expectations and have my perceptions of myself, other people and in situations. I have to get out of my head and not be so willing to follow my crazy mind!
When I am under pressure I cannot focus mentally. When I am dealing with other people I either want to flee or fight, especially if there is drama, conflict and/or confrontation. When I am in a demanding situation I sometimes struggle when it comes to thinking clearly and concisely. I am just stretched to my limit or at least I THINK I am!
How do you strengthen your mental aptitude?
The biggest lesson I have learned from building strength mentally is to know myself! Also, it helps to know what is important to me. It matters to me in staying true to who I am! It gives me a sense of priority and purpose too.
I try to remain as calm and collected as possible. I try to put a smile and a positive spin on it too! Sometimes instead of envisioning the outcome I focus on the challenge at hand. This gives me a plan when figuring out what I want to do and where I want to go!
Basically, I ask myself 2 questions!
- What did I do well?
- What solutions are available to me to solve the problem at hand?
I remember the one manager I had a few years back. This manager did not want to hear problems unless you came with some solutions to those problems! This manager wanted you to change your thought process of a problem to focusing on thinking of solutions. I know it helped me in my thought processes as well as strengthing my mental aptitude!
This manager also helped me be more self motivated and to really trust myself and my abilities! This manager really challenged me mentally as well as motivated me mentally, emotionally and physically. I enjoyed that constructive feedback and that overall collaboration. I appreciated that building up instead of breaking me down!
This also holds me accountable to myself! If I take accountability I am way more likely to be successful. I really do not want to slack off, pass off or short myself. For me it is about doing the best that I can and knowing that I did it to the best of my abilities too! Otherwise I am not gaining, growing or learning in these situations because I am not following through to the end.
By growing and learning I am changing, improving and transitioning as a person and a better version of myself too! I strongly believe in learning and doing better when I make mistakes, have setbacks and experience failures. In building my mental strength I build my confidence too! This helps reduce the anxiety, pressure and stress. I have the ability to remain focused and hopefully find my patient, calm and collected self. The ultimate end result is being able to perform better by being able to think on my feet in order to take action!
(Photos by RSheridan)