Being More Proactive
Why does that knee jerk reaction happen when dealing with people in certain situations?
I struggle when it comes to having an automatic response, especially in saying the RIGHT thing or at least saying what the other person WANTS to hear! Then you give a response that shows appreciation or gives a compliment and the person turns it into a negative. I start replaying in my head what went wrong and where the break down happened. Why does it have to be so hard to connect, interact and communicate with other people at times!
What triggers that response?
I know sometimes I just react and for no real reason either! I speak before I think and in goes my foot right into my open mouth. It can be over something simple and petty and dumb too! Sometimes that reaction becomes a personal attack where feelings are hurt and words are said that cannot be taken back.
I realize that I am not going to click with every person I interact with and that is okay! It really comes down to how you treat another person and hopefully for the better. I am sorry to say that the majority of people do not live life like a reality show and get self involved with ALL that DRAMA! You cannot go through life thinking that everything is happening TO YOU and everyone is out to GET YOU. So Not Worth Thinking Like That!
One BIG Hairy Situation
Why does a simple request just set off a chain of events and blow everything out of proportion at times?
I know I am guilty when it comes to my ears hearing one thing while my brain is processing that one thing completely different! In a way it is like that phone game where the first person states a word and by the time the word reaches the last person in the line the word has completely changed. I really try to be respectful as well as show common courtesy, but sometimes it goes so wrong!
Sometimes I would be much better off if I did not react and say nothing at all! I have beliefs and values as well as emotions, feelings and thoughts. I need to work on shutting my mouth and opening my ears more! I need to keep my self talk, comments and judgements to myself.
Learning Lessons . . .
I am learning to pause and process what is happening before just reacting! I am learning to focus in and see the situation for what it is and learn from it. I know that I need to be true to myself when it comes to connecting, interacting and communicating with other people. I am able to follow my heart and project from the inside out with love!
In the long run it is not the end for sure! You cannot just come out reacting and taking these situations personal. It may not be right, but it happens! You learn to deal and grow as a person.
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