Jealousy vs. Envy
I recently read a book about friendships and there was one topic that kept sticking out to me! The topic of jealousy and envy among the different friends and the role it played in their friendships. I starting thinking about that movie Single White Female and the very unhealthy roommate/friendship between the two main female characters in that movie!
Jealousy can be an impluse or instance of feeling jealous or being jealous or behaving jealous.
It’s not easy being green. ~Kermit the Frog
Envy is wanting what somebody else has or to desire something that somebody else has. Envy results in feelings of resentment or unhappiness.
No matter how large the swamp; be your own frog. ~Kermit the Frog
I like to think of it as being competitive between friends, but could there be a bit of jealousy or even envy with that competition! Yes, there could be. I think it comes down to how you handle and deal with the situation as well as your emotions, feelings and thoughts. There is a fine line between being supportive and being a little green when it comes to the balance of friendships!
I know I become a little green when I start in on the negative self talk, the self doubts and the questioning of my abilities, skills and talents! I reflect my insecurities and my fears on to my friends and that affects the friendships too. Why am I competing with my friends and comparing myself to my friends? I need to work on building healthier friendships instead of breaking those friendships down!
I want to see my friends have good things happen to them in their lives! I just need to keep my mouth shut and my ears open to listen more. I want to share in the happiness, celebrate in the successes and give best wishes. I really need to set my own needs aside and just be there when needed!
I have to realize that each and every one of us is on a different path in living our lives! This realization helps me to not turn it into a competition or about comparison. It is more about being mindful and being grateful for what I already do have and what I want in my life. I want to share in what my friends want in their lives more than anything else!
I love when I can learn new things from my friends and continue to grow as a person! I enjoy the collaboration and the interaction when I can put my strengths together with another person’s abilities, skills and talents. Sometimes I am suprised how well we complement each other. It is such a supportive, healthier and happier friendship!
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